What are self-limiting beliefs?
Self–limiting beliefs are assumptions or perceptions that you’ve got about yourself and about the way the world works. These assumptions are “self–limiting” because in some way they’re holding you back from achieving what you are capable of.
Examples of self-limiting beliefs
- I am a failure
- I can’t do this
- I’m not good enough
- I’m not worthy of love
- I don’t deserve happiness
- That’s just my luck
If you let negative self limit beliefs dictate your every thought and action then that will reflect in your life. Changing your mindset from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, doesn’t suddenly make everything perfect but it does give you more of a capacity to negotiate the not so good. A mindset shift helps you stop dwelling so much on it and helps you move past whatever ‘it’ is, you can learn to work with it and create a life of your wildest dreams.
The timing will never be right, you have to decide what you want and make it work.
JUST START! Start with limited resources, start without a clear plan. I repeat! Just start! And watch magic happen.
Tamara Gillingham
It’s poison to the mind to sit in limiting beliefs. You don’t have to be good at something already to start, everyone was a beginner at some point. Mistakes happen but that’s when you learn and grow. Each set back as you continue on a journey of learning will eventually be from a place of experience, a place with a base line of knowledge to excel forward and to continue.
“Don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.”
A Cinderella Story (2004)
The key to success, so I’ve been told is not giving up. To keep striving and driving yourself forward. Learning from your mistakes and adapting.
I was talking with my sister the other day and we were discussing our bodies, my sister was expressing how she just wanted to loose a few pounds and declared that once that happened only then would she be happy. I felt it was important to say to her, that she should try to be happy with where she is now and be content with that. Moving forward in a positive grateful way is a better place to create change, even if it’s a neutral mindset…rather than a negative one .That way her happiness isn’t contingent on something that may occur in the future but could also change.
So be happy/content now, then start. Working towards something you want shouldn’t leave your self-esteem in jeopardy. We’re human and it’s never plain sailing. There will be good and bad weeks, accept this and you’re already in control. You take the good with the bad, evaluate and adapt. Loosing faith and being overly critical and negative diminishes successes that have already been won.
Start from a place of calm, not anxiety or pressure or people pleasing. Start for yourself and work with yourself.
It’s time to kick out the negative thoughts, recognise them, challenge them, change them & change your life.
Simple right?
Well in theory YES it really is, but it takes time, consistency and whole lotta love. Sis, you’ve got this.
Spilling tea with tamara 